Post at Apr 23, 2021
INFIDELITY –MARS & VENUS
An Affair to Remember…
It is Human – we all do things that hurt one another knowingly or unknowingly. We never decide to succumb to lustful desires or seduction. It all happens in the heat of the moment without much thought of the consequences. It catches you like fire. And before you know… it has transpired leaving you guilty, no matter how much you may feel it was justified in your given circumstances. Some choose to do it as a passive revenge. It seems fair to cheat on the partner who was emotionally or physically unavailable. And your logical mind says Yes to it! Consequences forgotten, men and women become a victim of Lust!
When you are left with…
Infidelity is an inevitable affair in our modern society strung between trials of time & temptations. Guilt, hurt, betrayal, and shame are some of the most tormenting feelings men and women go through when they discover infidelity by chance or confession by their partner. Some partners become numb, mute and frozen with suffering, while others become uncontrollably filled with rage. Depression creeps in where there’s a silence, lack of open communication or cold war with no desire to understand or resolve the issue. Leading to Divorce mostly! While others sweep things under the rug pretending as if “it never happened”. But that doesn’t usually work for long as the hurt surfaces sooner or later to haunt the relationship until both the partners forgive and embrace with new hope.
It’s sometimes too late to…
And then one day as you wakeup to your finer senses, you realize the damage not only to the relationship but to you yourself! You can’t afford to live with this guilt. Nor can you continue to live under the same roof. You need to bury yourself as you can’t face another, innocent or deserving. As we know it, Time Reveals Everything. Nothing goes hidden for long. Lipstick on your collar, scent of his musk, lingering smile, loss of sexual intimacy, expenses soaring, secret getaway holidays… it soon becomes apparent. Fortunately or unfortunately woman is gifted with intuition and sixth sense. She catches and suspects her man long before man can catch his partner’s secret affair
The question here is not Who to blame?
Why did it happen at all? What took over? Can we deny that we were responsible for this whether you are at the receiving end or the doer?
I believe in most cases both are!
Instead of accusing and judging one another it’s important to own it and face it! It’s not a single person’s job! Both can mindfully and emphatically resolve it.
An affair or One Night Stand doesn’t have to be the End of the World. Nor should it be a Goodbye without a Second Chance. Love Challenges, it never was an easy course. Let past be Past! Every Moment is a Chance and Choice to Love Again!
Preparation to the course of Hope….
But before that you will have to decide if your relationship is worth saving and transforming. Spending time and energetically re-connecting, reconsidering, emphatically listening to one another by understanding each person’s perspective on what happened and why it happened. This will pave way for more mutual responsibility, more re-bonding, open heart, and fulfilling each other’s needs & fantasies too. Relationship requires both Physical and Emotional Fulfillment to Last a Lifetime. And before you know it, you will soon be recovering and transforming your relationship on a better note than ever! Yes! Isn’t it true – with Every Crisis We Grow Closer, More Aware, More Responsible, More Compassionate, and much Dissolves with Love!
Remember, Everyone wants to feel Wanted, Loved, Desired, Cherished, Nourished and Balancing the Receiving and Giving of the same makes it a Lifelong Romance! Don’t take each other for granted, Relationship is a Delicate Affair, Handle with Care! Don’t just fulfill duties and chores, Be a Lover! Woo your man or woman with small gestures. It’s Your Love Story, make it Beautiful!
FORGIVE – LET GO – HEAL – TRANSFORM ….