LOVE & ROMANCE IN THE FAST LANE

WHY ARE WE FAILING & FALLING OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS in Today’s Era?

Its True and sad to say that we are looking for cheap and new thrills in the lust driven modern society. Somewhere humanity is losing touch with their heart and soul… Many have become puppets to their Instincts and Impulses than adhering to their commitments and values. Somewhere we have lost our way in the fast paced materialistic world.

Nobody has the time to take time to know another. Everyone wants to just cherish lustful moments. Is it my place or your place? That’s what the dating scenes have come to. No space for romance nor time for meaningful conversations. Each one wants to control the other or soon they replace them with another to meet their selfish needs. Today we play mind-games and make lucid dialogues to woo the partner with no sincere desire or intentions of building a lasting relationship. Romance which was only between the eyes and unspoken words is now bold and loud.

Love is just a play… in Disguise of Lust! Even marital sites that promise a bride and groom of your dreams have become dangerous with romance scammers! No one can trust another. With every heartbreak we are building walls around our heart, fearing to surrender in full ever again. We look with eyes of doubt at another. Even married couples are unsure what’s happening behind their back… Trusting in today’s world has become even harder with so much temptations lurking at work and everywhere. No one has time to pause or to reflect on their feelings or impulses. Walking into another man’s arms or woman’s seduction has become the place for solace… Or should I say an Escape? Who has the time to talk things through with their beloved whom they first adored. Who wants to let go of the forbidden fruit in the closet and stolen moments, stealing time in illusionary love.

The need for being committed for lifetime is now obsolete. Everything is fleeting and flowing, with new faces to wakeup to every weekend. Anyone who is willing to rock and roll under the covers or in the office cabin or inside the lift, with another man’s wife or another woman’s husband; and if you got luckier maybe with a single ready to mingle… No strings attached! Women of today are feeling empowered with more rights and freedom granted, but haven’t we taken on more burden and lost our feminine grace? Sexually Liberated Mars & Venus have forgotten the meaning of Loyalty! Infidelity and one night stands have become easier than keeping up the vow!

And why should men of today even choose to commit when they can have it all… with no sense of responsibility to another and lifetime commitment when they can please themselves every now and then with new faces. Anyways man by nature was designed to spread his seed and women to nurture in exchange of protection and provision. As we know, it was civilization and marriage that set the tone of the society – not nature.

But I wonder what if marriage is faulty and unnatural ? What if we were meant to be living in a bizarre and barbarian fashion. But wouldn’t that call for more chaos, more diseases and pain? Not to mention least to no security and structure too. Are we men and women not getting lost and astray?

Isn’t it time to reassess our values, beliefs and choices we are making?

Isn’t it time to make some compromises and sacrifices to value what we have?

Isn’t it time we nourish our relationships than be carried away by fatal attractions?

Isn’t it time we see the extraordinary in the ordinary with new perspective?

Isn’t it time we find ways to fall in love with the same person all over again?

Isn’t it time to know and appreciate the differences for deeper bonding?

Isn’t time we change our priorities and manage time for our relationships than be lost in the rat race of ever demanding materialistic life?

Isn’t it time we look into each others eyes than the text messages on facebook and whatsapp?

Isn’t time we move from the digital virtual world to real-life human touch and interactions?

Isn’t it time we recognize the beauty and fruitfulness of lasting commitment against all odds?

Isn’t it time to break free from hook-up breakup cycles?

Isn’t time to stop wandering and fishing for love outdoors and face our challenges?

Isn’t time to Wake up to Real Love?

Shivanya Yogmayaa

Relationship & intimacy Coach