Sexless Marriage-A Lie

SEXLESS MARRIAGE… ARE YOU LIVING A LIE?

Sex is an important Ingredient of every healthy marriage or lasting relationship. We are Physical Beings who like cuddles, touches, kisses & orgasms as a natural expression of physical intimacy. It is the innate primal desire by nature for Co-creation!

Sexless marriage – when one wants it and another does not – can be very depressing and emotionally tormenting. However, some rare couples are there in the Universe who have mutually agreed upon Sexless Marriage for multiple reasons known to them. They are comfortable being like friends displaying affection and nurturing care with zero complaints. But the majority in sexless marriages are living a DEAD MARRIAGE. Just dutiful acts towards each other.

DYING INTIMACY OR NO INTIMACY

The problem arises when two partners have mismatched libidos! One of the partners may be suffering from some psychological issue or unaddressed trauma. Or they are influenced by media or movies and are judging their own bodies. For men, it may be about performance pressure – the fear of not being able to satisfy their partner. Sometimes it could be the religious impact of shame and guilt. And surprisingly it could even be an incest abuse issue that had never been resolved. The hatred for Sex can be the natural consequence if they were mistreated or raped. Thus leaving them cold and numb to respond to their partners.

THE OTHER TRUTH UNCOVERED

In truth, for many women sexual desire may diminish if they are feeling neglected or unloved in their relationship. And for many men the loss of sexual need may be due to an underlying physical problem such as erectile dysfunction or pain during intercourse. If this continues the sexual frustration will flare up tearing the relationship apart.

Although some of you may have reconciled with a sexless marriage for the short-term, taking each other and physical intimacy for granted can be a costly affair! It is important to understand and realize that a relationship needs Sexual Nurturing not only to keep the Relationship alive but also for Emotional, Physical & Spiritual wellbeing too!

Things that won’t help your sexless relationship:

• Forcing them into sexual acts
• Manipulating physical intimacy
• Trying porn to stimulate
• Becoming emotionally aggressive
• Ignoring the real root cause
• Blaming each other

REKINDLE ROMANCE… RESTORING INTIMACY in SEXLESS MARRIAGE

• Ask yourself and your partner why sex has gone out of the window
• Have an Open Communication of your Fantasies and Needs.
• Don’t Blame your partner for it completely, instead ask How were you Responsible for it too
• As a Teammate make the commitment to fix your intimacy issues
• To begin, Initiate with Holding hands & Cuddling more often
• Make Romantic Moves when you are away at work. Send each other Sexy Love notes
• Create an Environment for Arousal. Have a shower together or massage each other
• Look Attractive to each-other and make Fitness your Daily Mantra
• Stop being Clingy or Needy! It makes you unattractive!
• Reinvent yourself as an individual identity by following your own interests, hobbies and passion
• Detox Your Relationship by Releasing the Bitterness, Anger, Resentment and Judgement
• Treat each other with Compassion, Kindness, and Affection.
• Practice Forgiveness in Marriage/Relationship
• Play Naughty Sex Games
• Celebrate Life Together
• Attend a Couple Retreat
• Seek  Professional Cou

  nselling if need be to Resolve your issues with mature Understanding & Reflection

Identifying and Understanding the REASONS FOR SEXLESS MARRIAGE