Furious Relationships

Consult before it Burns or Break you down…

We are all human and feel multiple emotions every day. Sometimes, our emotions are in our control, while sometimes they aren’t. Anger is one of these many complex emotions we experience. People have different ways of expressing their anger – some cry, some shout, some want to be left alone while some speak harsh words.

Certainly, anger should be taken out… but in a manner that doesn’t cause harm to anyone. Uncalibrated expression of Anger is capable of not only hurting you but also the people around you. The damage caused can’t always be reversed and therefore one should always be aware of the loss anger can result in.

This emotion (which is otherwise natural and healthy) can become a cause of serious damage if not restrained beforehand. And it’s effect is not limited to the damage it causes the relationship – the loss could impact the lives of others involved as well. So, the only way out is to be aware of your destructive anger and work on controlling it.

If you think that your anger is not that damaging, it might be the case that you’re unaware of it’s intensity. Here are a few incidents of people’s anger and the destruction it caused:

Amit, a 23-year-old guy used to live with his family – his parents and a younger sister. Since  childhood, he had anger issues where he would burst out words that would hurt the people around. His family always understood his weakness and supported him, and tried to calm him down whenever required. However, one day, after he broke up with his girlfriend he went back home and took out all his anger and frustration on his father. His family and best friend tried to control him but he incessantly spoke brutal words to his father. Later, his father took the car and went out of the house. Hurt by his son’s words he couldn’t drive properly and met with an accident. It’s been 2 years now, Amit’s father hasn’t recovered from the paralysis.

Ragini is a 30-year-old woman living with her husband and 5-year-old son. She often kept her thoughts and emotions to herself and never spoke about them. However, on rare occasions she would lose her calm and throw things around out of anger or frustration. One such day, after a huge fight with her husband, her anger got beyond her control. She started throwing things without being aware of who’s around. As one could have anticipated, the flower vase she threw hit her son and his head got badly injured. As a result of her extreme anger, her son had to suffer a serious injury.

Priya and Sahil were in a relationship and used to live together. Both shared blissful moments except when Sahil would get physically abusive in his anger. When the two of them had fights, he would manhandle her. Though he always asked for forgiveness afterwards, he never changed his behaviour. Priya remained with him in spite of everything but gradually lost love for him. One day, things got beyond control, and Sahil slapped her. She cried but he got violent and continued to beat her. She left the place immediately and their relationship came to an end.

To conclude, your loved one would usually try their best to be patient with your anger and support you through it. But if left unchecked, repeated hurtful words and actions would erode their love towards you. It will instill fear and insecurity in them because of your unpredictable actions that could happen anytime due to your anger. This is why anger should be controlled and expressed in a way that is effective and harmless.

Remember, it’s ok to be angry but make sure it’s not destructive or damaging.