INFIDELITY TURMOIL

The concept of being cheated has become so commonplace these days that there’s always a high probability of your relationship being shattered due to a third-person. In this digital world, people are falling into seductive traps more than ever, that too without meeting face-to-face. Whenever there’s a loose tie in a relationship, it has become so much accessible and facile for anyone to get attracted to someone else.

For an adulterer, infidelity can be exciting and seductive, allowing feelings of renewal, romantic rejuvenation and blissful moments. No doubt, Infidelity is betrayal but it isn’t necessarily the end of the marriage or relationship. 

For the partner being betrayed, it can be heartbreaking and traumatic. It’s an emotional roller coaster of mixed feelings – anger, confusion, self-doubt, suspicion and pain.

There are so many reasons why partners cheat – sexual temptation being the most obvious one. However, it’s important to understand that the emptiness they are trying to fill may not always be sexual  – it can be emotional as well. The need to get emotional attention and support is a strong reason for someone to get involved with a third person.

Different Types of Infidelity:

As mentioned earlier, the reasons can be many, but whatever they are, their end results are always devastating. Here are a few instances of the same:

Asha and Rohit have been in a live-in relationship for the past 5 years. They had a debilitating relationship but they weren’t addressing it face-to-face. One day while Rohit was in a hotel for an official meeting, he saw Asha checking into a room with a strange man who had his hands around her waist. Rohit followed them till their room and after his knocking, Asha opened the door looking all stunned to see him. On questioning, she told him how she was sexually dissatisfied with Rohit and wanted something physically exciting and wild. Obviously, they both have never talked about this topic, so Asha found a way of satisfying herself through some other man. This incident and the breakup that followed, left Rohit in a state of immense self-blame. He became hesitant to get involved with anyone in a physical relationship. He never spoke about it to anyone and lost all hope and trust in finding a comforting love again.

Ramit and Priya have been married for 10 years and don’t have any children. They are both working professionals, living away from their parents. However, Ramit used to emotionally abuse Priya; and she didn’t have the comfort to speak of this to any of her friends/family. One day, while Priya was in the shower, Ramit checked her phone and read her WhatsApp chat exchanging romantic lines and pictures with another man. When he confronted her, she confessed told how she wanted someone to be there for her emotionally and listen to her. She even mentioned how that man bought her out of depression and held her hand when no one else did. She obviously didn’t have that kind of relationship with Ramit where she could talk to him about the emptiness and trauma she was going through. After a month, Ramit met an expert in a party and upon discussing the matter with him, he realized how it was all his mistake. He then went to Priya, apologized to her and assured her of giving all the love and comfort he should have given her long before.

Raghav and Ragini have been dating for 2 years now. Both graduated from the same college and are now working in different companies. They are in a live-in relationship, and things have been going quite well until Raghav suddenly started getting extremely engrossed on his phone. One day Ragini’s colleague sent her a picture of Raghav entering a girl’s flat. Ragini took the car out and rushed to the place, rang the bell and to her utmost shock, saw Raghav opening the door standing only in his shorts. She was crushed in bits and left the place immediately. Next day, Raghav came and told how he got tempted and attracted towards that girl he met on a dating app. He confessed how he couldn’t control his emotions and got involved in this sexual relationship with that girl, which was entirely based on mutual lust and no emotions. This betrayal shattered Ragini completely and she lost all faith in men. It’s been 1.5 years since it happened, and she still couldn’t recover from this breach of trust she experienced. She ended up choosing alcohol as the way out to help her somehow sleep at night. Now, she’s a 25-year-old girl with no belief in love and no hope for the future.

Infidelity can be borne out of many reasons like:-

• Boredom
• Domestic Violence
• Disrespect & Abuse
• Poor Boundaries
• High Sexual Drive
• Lack of Appreciation
• Lack of Physical Compatibility
• Living in Different Cities / Country
• Lack of Quality Time/Attention
• Financial Discord / Struggles
• Lack of Open Communication

And many more which can leave the other partner completely shattered and confused. There are several questions that would come in your mind during this time and you might begin to lose all hope in your life. However, before you make any decision, it is important to comprehend the situation calmly and take into perspective why it all happened in the first place.

If required, take guidance and consultation from an expert who could help you get your thoughts straightened out and analyze the situation before you finally call it quits.

Let’s face it, an affair might end up keeping you suppressed and alone forever or re-unite your relationship back stronger than ever.

A few couple therapy sessions can help you and your partner to address and work on each other’s needs and eliminate the reason which became the cause for infidelity. A brief session with an expert can help you Rekindle the Romance, Intimacy & Love in your relationship, and help you repair your individual issues too.

Let’s Take the Journey Together from Infidelity Turmoil to Deeper Intimacy